Adult Religious Education, Tempe Monthly Meeting


Spiritual Category

Family Category

Behavioral Category

Financial Category

Possessions Category



1: Spiritual Category (credo & dogma & beliefs level/spiritual level)


1. live in the moment


2. make time on a regular basis for internal reflection


3. get rid of all the unnecessary religious stuff... retain the Spirit


4. think for yourself ‑ take personal responsibility


5. try to see all sides ‑ be flexible


6. be understanding of others' views


7. withhold judgment


8. listen to others; be kind; think about other people's situations


9. let others know you care; be there for others ‑ just be there to talk


10. make simple spiritual rules for yourself


11. be a Quaker


12. don't repeat a credo you don't believe in


13. don't participate to appeals of patriotism


14. find the real you ‑ which will change from time to time


15. have the courage to participate in the issues of our times according to your conscience


16. worship with others


17. pray daily


18. learn and practice centering spiritually


19. practice forgiveness


20. learn to go with the flow, but not the flow of the world


21. put yourself in God's hands


22. give wings to your prayers


23. learn to recall and live the Serenity Prayer


 Back to top


2: Family Category


(recreational time/work time/expressing emotions! handling conflicts/relationships! money/holidays and birthdays and anniversaries)


1. make room for vacations


2. be flexible about traditions/family plans


3. keep records of family stuff (written, photos, videos, locks of hair, baby outfits, school projects, etc. within reason!)


4. have sit down meals together


5. be honest with your family


6. tell your family what's important to you


7. give the gift of experiences and learned skills rather than material gifts


8. don't hold on to money ‑ use it, have fun with it (still remember to have emergency money)


9. get rid of envy ‑ don't compare yourself to others


10. everyone should have chores


11. siblings need to have strong bonds


12. organized activities must adapt to family schedule


13. celebrate holidays, birthdays, anniversaries (all types), good grades, a successful performance, a worthy attempt, a great day, a wonderful vacation


14. set rules and boundaries and enforce them


15. create a system for handling conflicts


16. allow each family member privacy and solitude


17. teach by example


18. don't miss (recognize) those teachable moments


19. allow time outs for reflective thinking


20. express love and other emotions


Back to top


3: Behavioral Category


(speech & language/attitudes/emotions/habits & patterns)


1. think about habits in your daily life: are some just automatic? Pick and choose deliberately; prioritize your habits


2. identify which habits are destructive and decide how to change them to new ones that are constructive


3. get over it! Let go of past issues


4. work hard on listening and not on speaking


5. do you really hear the person you are talking to?


6. don't use unkind speech


7. drive like a Quaker


8. conserve your emotional energy ‑ fruitfully use your emotional energy


9. be careful about being indecisive


10. have optimism about declining possessions


11. don't procrastinate


12. keep a schedule


13. pace yourself ‑ break large projects into parts


14. have a plan of action ‑ to stop being overwhelmed


15 . ...let no evil talk come out of your mouth, but only such as is good and fits the occasion... Ephesians 4: 29


16. think before you speak


17. understand your audience when you speak


18. recognize others' needs and be flexible


19. stop the bad habit of making speech complicated


20. pick up after yourself


21. be supportive of others, not enabling


22. purge old files and records if necessary


23. just fix the damn door and stop complaining


Back to top


4: Financial Category (what you buy/how you buy/how your purchasing is Influenced/how you obtain income)


1. know where your money goes 2. pay off credit card balance every month 3. get a good education or train ing=sustainable income 4. avoid impulse buying; give all purchases thought first


5. use automatic bill paying for some goods and services, checks for others and on‑line for others


6. buy most basic items; consider store brand rather than paying for brand names


7. always have emergency funds or a plan B


8. pay bills on time


9. keep records


10. don't spend more than you bring in; try to live on less than you bring in


II. always pay yourself first (savings)


12. payroll deductions help you save


13. values: consider where your purchases come from and how the workers are treated


14. consider buying used or recycled


15. prioritize your basics and budget


16. feel comfortable about how you earn your money


17. don't buy cheap; don't buy expensive


18. plan for retirement


19. give money to your monthly meeting on a monthly basis


20. consider what level of interest/knowledge/values you want to have in your investments


Back to top


5: Possessions Category




1. don't be ruled by your possessions; if possessions rule, find a way to change the relationships


2. recognize the need to grow out of possessions ‑ get over the emotional aspects


3. create time to consider when to let go of possessions that have emotional ties, but are not needed, have emotions come into alignment with needs


4.things require maintenance; consider letting go of things which you don't have time to maintain


5. think of the life expectancy of items when purchasing them; make the need and your budget match


6. buy things that have a small carbon footprint


7. keep working at organizing; it's an ongoing process


8. if you can get by without using an item, you might not need it; use a test: would I use this item more than  times a week/month?


9. try freecycling or bartering


10. share; enjoy your things with others (especially tools)


11. organize/plan so that all supplies for projects are gathered in one location that is appropriate to the project


12. get rid of clothes that don't fit or you haven't worn in more than a year


13. get rid of clothes that are surplus (example: too many tee‑shirts)


14. schedule time for discarding things


15. examine things you have with a critical eye to see what you really want to have


16. put stuff in boxes and then in an intermediate zone then later, discard


17. celebrate when you get extra space and unclutter


18. rejoice in uncluttering and good order



 Back to top